
Top 10 MISTAKES to avoid on a first date.-With the emergence of social media platforms and dating apps,physical dating no doubt can be tough. Donât make it worse by sabotaging the relationship from the very beginning.
Meeting face to face is different from any online dating experience.

There has always been challenges of people having fake accounts or catfishing to attract what they can’t normally get in real life!
Always ensure that you at-least engage the date on video-chat or facetime to avoid being disappointed.
We have compiled Top 10 Mistakes to avoid on a first date from relationship experts
We talked to several relationship experts who explain what NOT to do on a first date. Trust us. Youâll want to heed their advice.
For ladies,please ensure you have someone you trust that knows where you are meeting the “stranger” and if possible the details of the stranger just incase it turns out bad!Have enough cash incase you are traveling to meet them!Don’t ask for financial help on the first date no matter how rich they are or seem to be!
The dating game doesnât always end the way weâd like it to. Sometimes itâs because thereâs simply no spark, values donât mesh, or thereâs no attraction. Other times, we do things to sabotage the relationship right from the very beginning.Â
1. NEVER mention your ex.
This is a big turnoff for a lot of people. Oftentimes, itâs a sign that youâre not completely over your ex and your current date is just a rebound. âTalking about an ex love forces your date to wonder if youâre ready for someone new,â warns Joan Barnard, Zooskâs resident dating expert.
âIf you catch yourself beginning sentences with âI used to date someone whoâŠâ or âOh yeah, my ex and IâŠ,â you are setting yourself up for failure.â
Although a little history when asked won’t hurt.. only when asked ..
2. Donât get drunk.
Never try to drink for the first time or with zero experience.Drinking should really be kept to a minimumâno more than two alcoholic beverages preferably. âExcessive drinking can lead to situations where you make decisions you normally wouldnât,â says Elle Nicole, the author of Se x Meets Style. âA first date can easily turn into a one-night stand under these circumstances. The goal is to engage with the person by listening and speaking, and thatâs really hard to do if the room is spinning.â Be sober..
3. Donât talk about marriage or kids.
According to licensed psychologist Kimber Shelton, âIf marriage and kids are important to you, there are general questions that can give you an idea of someoneâs desire or feelings toward having a family, such as, âTell me about your family?â or âWhatâs your family like?’â
4. Don’t Speak too much about yourself.
Create a balance between speaking about yourself and asking questions about the other person. âToo much about yourself suggests you are too self-involved,â stresses physiologist and author Karen Sherman, Ph.D. âAsking too much about the other person feels uncomfortable and like youâre a detective.â
5. Put your phone aside.
âTexting at the table may make your date think that you are not taking this seriously or are simply not interested,â explains professional matchmaker Audra Chandler-Blakley. âSo put the phone aside, and take this time to really focus on your date and get to know the date face to face.â
Make sure you avoid first date surprises whereby you end up where there is zero network-that is a red flag!
Top 10 mistakes to avoid on a first date
6. Donât wear revealing clothing.
You have only one chance to make a good impression. Barely-there clothing can make you appear âeasyâ or âlooseâ even if youâre not. Donât come dressed for the gym either. âDress well but donât overdo it. âDressy casualâ is the best: shirt and pants for men and a nice dress or a cute top and pants or skirt for women,â says life coach Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC.
7. Pick a neutral dating Location
Avoid his place or your place.
âFirst of all, this is dangerous, since, even if you know the guy and think heâs a pussycat, he might turn into a tiger when youâre alone with him,â says bestselling author Carole Lieberman, M.D. âAlso, it will inevitably lead to boredom or se x, and you donât want either on the first date.â
8. Donât sleep with him/her on the first date.
If you really want a committed relationship and for your date to take you seriously, donât have se x with them right away. âHaving se x on the first date will cloud your judgment, and if he doesnât call again, youâre going to spend a lot of energy analyzing, stalking, and even asking him out yourself for a second and third date. Just because he had se x with you doesnât mean heâs interestedâand if you care about his interest, wait to sleep with him,â stresses April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert.
9. Be real-don’t fake it
IDonât pretend to be someone youâre not. Dont fake accent or walking style.. lol
f you âactâ on your first date, what will happen when you try to get real later? âWhat you want to do is be as real and natural as possible, so that you wonât have to try to remember what act you put on,â says relationship author Russell Friedman. âIf he or she doesnât like exactly who you are, then you want to pass on them anyway.â
10. Avoid controversial topics.
While itâs important for many people to know where their date stands on finances, religion, the future, or politicsâdonât bring them up on the first date. It can lead to arguments and uncomfortable moments if the two of you donât exactly see eye to eye. âYou may be on the lookout for a life partner, but this is putting the cart ahead of the horse.
Stick to more esoteric and insightful topics,â explains clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula. âGet to know your date, and donât get ahead of yourself.â
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